Ask Self Serve – Toys for 50 Shades fans

Question: What product does Self Serve Toys recommend to 50 Shades fans looking for a first time product? For the experienced fans?BONDaids Double Restraint

Answer: 50 Shades of Grey has made its mark on readers and has opened up a whole new world of sexual exploration. There’s lots of debate around the way the book portrays kinky people. Even though the book addresses “alternative” lifestyles, kink is shown as something that can be “cured”. Kink is a lifestyle and the only cure needed is an open mind and a few supplies. Overall, the book has made a little slap and tickle in the bedroom more acceptable and it reaffirms that sexploration is healthy.


We recommend starting out with toys and touch that tease the senses and playing with power exchange. A blindfold and restraints are a great place to start. Blindfolds increase any sensation for the wearer and let the other person take control. Self Serve carries locally-made blindfolds with silk and lace, so you feel sexy while you wear it. Our restraints come in different styles, sizes and colors. We have leather, fleece-lined cuffs, adjustable soft leather cuffs that wrap around the wrist and soft furry restraints you can attach to a bed or chair. We don’t recommend metal cuffs because they can cause nerve damage if too much pressure is applied to delicate areas like wrists and ankles.

We’ve got toys for the experienced kinksters too. We have a selection of leather, rope and recycled bike tube floggers. We also carry thumpers, hogties, male chastity devices, wax play candles and Wartenberg wheels.

If you want more tips about getting into kink and BDSM, check out our class 50 Shades for Real on March 21st at 7:30 pm. Call 505 265 5815 to reserve your spot.


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