Ask Self Serve – Masturbation in a Relationship

Question: Is it ok that I want to masturbate even though I’m in a relationship? I’m worried my partner gets jealous. We wish we had sex more often, and sometimes it feels like cheating. — Answer: Masturbating is natural, healthy and normal. It can help you be a stellar sexual partner because you learn what […]

Ask Self Serve – Male Prostate Pleasure

Question: Why do heterosexual men like prostate stimulation? Isn’t it painful and messy? — Answer: We’re excited to answer this question – it’s one we get a lot. Lots of couples experiment with anal play because it can feel delightful for both partners and add excitement. Most men have the bonus of a prostate, often […]

Ask Self Serve – When penetration is painful

Question: I’ve had a lot of trouble with painful penetration so I just gave up on it.  I’ve asked every gynecologist I’ve been to if something’s wrong and my last one finally found that my hymen was still partially intact.  I’ve had sex with one man and they don’t have to use the ‘virgin’ speculum. […]

Ask Self Serve – Male chastity

Question: I’m contacting you about my interest in male chastity. I’m having issues meeting someone who I’m attracted to and likes the idea of male chastity.  Any advice for a guy? — Answer: Male chastity can be a very exciting and gratifying way to explore control and power within the context of consent and pleasure. […]