What We Mean by Resource Center

Self Serve prides itself on being a sex shop, and so much more. We’re a community hub of information about sex, relationships, gender, sexuality, toys, health, kink, consent, body positivity, consensual non-monogamy and more! We’ve been working hard over the last year to compile a community resource collection  and make then into usable info sheets. […]

Join Albuquerque Kinksters at Spring Pan(demonium) !

The New Mexico Leather League presents Spring Pan(demonium) April 24th-25th at Hotel Cascada! Spring Pan is a gathering of kinky folks in and around New Mexico to get together, build community, skill share and play! From the New Mexico Leather League website: “We are back with a splash for this years Spring Pan! Help us […]

Our Favorite Yes/No/Maybe Lists Available Online

People ask us all the time how they can have better sex, spice it up, or try something new. The answer is almost always communication! But telling people “You need to communicate about sex with your partner” often isn’t enough information to help people feel confident when it comes to talking about sex. At Self […]

Toy Review Tuesday: Plunge Paddle and Dildo

Violet Wand Safety Guidelines

Electrical play with a violet wand can be super fun!  It is also a serious undertaking and one that you should research thoroughly before the sparks fly!  Here are the tips we put together for our customers. Any electrical play has inherent risk, and there’s plenty of information about violet wand safety.  Some of it […]

Ask Self Serve – Toys for 50 Shades fans

Question: What product does Self Serve Toys recommend to 50 Shades fans looking for a first time product? For the experienced fans? – Answer: 50 Shades of Grey has made its mark on readers and has opened up a whole new world of sexual exploration. There’s lots of debate around the way the book portrays […]