Different Loving is a pioneering and deeply humanizing exploration of BDSM, dominance and submission, and other forms of erotic expression often considered "outside the norm." Based on extensive interviews and thoughtful research, this book helps unpack what it really means to love, and play, differently.

Instead of pathologizing or sensationalizing kink, the authors approach the topic with empathy and nuance, examining how power dynamics, pleasure, and trust intersect. Whether you’re curious, experienced, or looking to better understand yourself or your partner, Different Loving opens the door to a broader understanding of sexuality as a beautiful and complex spectrum.

You Might Like This Book If:

• You want a comprehensive introduction to BDSM, D/s, and alternative relationship styles

• You’re exploring kink and want to feel seen, affirmed, and educated

• You’re interested in the sociocultural history of non-normative sexual expression

• You love thoughtful, interview-based nonfiction that centers real experiences

You Might Not Like This Book If:

• You’re looking for a how-to guide with specific techniques or safety tips

• You’re uncomfortable with reading about sexual practices that differ from your own

• You prefer light, entertainment-focused reads over deep cultural analysis