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The New Topping Book is a modern, inclusive guide for anyone interested in exploring the emotional, ethical, and practical aspects of BDSM topping. Building on the wisdom and approachable style that made the original Topping Book a classic, this updated edition addresses the evolving landscape of kink, from online domination to lifestyle relationships, with a focus on communication, consent, and safety. Whether you are brand new to topping or looking to refine your skills, the authors provide practical tools for creating mutually satisfying power exchanges while maintaining trust and respect. You’ll learn how to approach scenes with confidence, understand your own boundaries, and ensure your partner’s well-being, all while keeping the experience engaging and fun. This book embraces the diversity of BDSM play and is written to support all genders, orientations, and dynamics.
You might like this book if:
You want to learn the fundamentals of ethical and satisfying BDSM topping
You are curious about both in-person and online dominance
You value safety, communication, and mutual consent in kink
You want insights from experienced educators who combine humor with practical advice
You might not like this book if:
You are looking for a purely technical guide without discussion of emotional or ethical aspects
You are only interested in bottoming or submissive play
You prefer a visual, photo-based guide rather than a text-focused resource
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The New Topping Book is a modern, inclusive guide for anyone interested in exploring the emotional, ethical, and practical aspects of BDSM topping. Building on the wisdom and approachable style that made the original Topping Book a classic, this updated edition addresses the evolving landscape of kink, from online domination to lifestyle relationships, with a focus on communication, consent, and safety. Whether you are brand new to topping or looking to refine your skills, the authors provide practical tools for creating mutually satisfying power exchanges while maintaining trust and respect. You’ll learn how to approach scenes with confidence, understand your own boundaries, and ensure your partner’s well-being, all while keeping the experience engaging and fun. This book embraces the diversity of BDSM play and is written to support all genders, orientations, and dynamics.
You might like this book if:
You want to learn the fundamentals of ethical and satisfying BDSM topping
You are curious about both in-person and online dominance
You value safety, communication, and mutual consent in kink
You want insights from experienced educators who combine humor with practical advice
You might not like this book if:
You are looking for a purely technical guide without discussion of emotional or ethical aspects
You are only interested in bottoming or submissive play
You prefer a visual, photo-based guide rather than a text-focused resource
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