Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas is a modern classic reimagining ancient practices for today’s diverse, fast-paced world. In this updated and inclusive second edition, Carrellas expands the conversation around sacred sexuality to embrace queer, trans, kinky, asexual, and non-monogamous experiences with love, joy, and clarity. Whether you’re new to Tantra or looking for a more expansive guide, Urban Tantra blends spiritual wisdom with juicy, practical how-tos for solo, partnered, or group play. Inside you'll find over 100 techniques for deepening intimacy, expanding orgasmic potential, and connecting with your body and others in ways that feel authentic and affirming. At Self Serve, we love how this book makes sacred sexuality accessible, body-positive, and celebratory of all identities and relationship styles.

Why you might like this book:

• Inclusive of LGBTQ+, trans, nonbinary, asexual, aromantic, and kink communities

• Offers step-by-step practices for sacred sex and energetic play

• Blends Tantra with modern realities like BDSM, non-monogamy, and tech-era connection

• Encourages solo, partner, and group exploration of intimacy and pleasure

• Great balance of spiritual, emotional, and erotic tools

Why you might not like this book:

• Focuses on energetic and spiritual approaches, which may not appeal to everyone

• Some techniques may feel advanced if you're brand-new to Tantra or bodywork

• Not a clinical or traditional sex ed book if you're looking for anatomy-first guides

Want help finding a Tantra or sacred sex resource that matches your comfort level and interests? We’re happy to help you explore your options.