A hands-on guide to cultivating secure relationships and healing attachment in consensual nonmonogamy. The Polysecure Workbook by therapist and author Jessica Fern is a practical companion to her foundational book Polysecure. If you've ever felt emotionally reactive, anxious, or disconnected in multiple loving relationships, this workbook helps you unpack those feelings and grow beyond them. It’s designed for anyone navigating nonmonogamy who wants to better understand their attachment patterns and create lasting emotional safety. Through reflective prompts, journaling exercises, and exploration of your personal history, you'll identify your own attachment needs, discover how they influence your relationships, and learn how to meet them without relying solely on rules or structure. Whether you're solo poly, part of a long-term triad, or exploring nonmonogamy for the first time, this workbook can help you build deeper, more stable connections.

You might want this workbook if:

• You're already familiar with Polysecure and want to apply its tools in real life

• You're exploring how attachment styles show up in your polyamorous or open relationships

• You want structured exercises to better understand your relationship dynamics

• You're looking for ways to feel safer, more secure, and more present in your partnerships

You might not want this workbook if:

• You’re not interested in self-reflection or journaling-based work

• You’re looking for a general introduction to polyamory without a focus on attachment

• You haven’t read Polysecure yet and want more foundational context first

Whether you're healing from past trauma or seeking clarity in your current relationships, the Polysecure Workbook invites you to do the deep emotional work that makes love sustainable.

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