Exploring kink might seem a bit intimidating at first; there’s a whole lot of stuff to learn, thoughtful self-reflection to be done, a bunch of in-depth communication between partners that not everyone is used to, and a lot of people don’t really know where to start. It can be overwhelming, we totally understand–and so do most kinksters out there. However this kind of play can be dangerous when folks don’t effectively connect their desires with communication.

R.A.C.K., which stands for Risk Aware Consentual Kink, is a common acronym used among kinksters who practice a harm reduction model of kink play that focuses on communication and consent. To practice any kink safely you must first learn about the risk that is inherent in that kind of play and what steps you can take while participating to keep the risk as low as possible or as low as feels safe for all parties involved. Personal responsibility is a corner-stone of being a risk-aware, responsible kinkster.

Take some time to figure out what you are excited about and be brave and talk to your partner about it. It is essential to get on the same page before you jump into this kind of play with someone else, to make sure everyone is excited and consenting to the fun you mutually engage in. Learning about what excites you and your partners, negotiating for that mutually, communicating about where your yes’s and no’s live is an essential and very fun part of kink. Make a yes/no/maybe checklist and have your partner(s) do the same, it will help you figure out what you want, what your partner(s) want, and the shared similarities and disagreements between you.

There are so many places to learn about kink! Watching one of our recorded classes, reading a book by someone whose kinks align with yours, social media accounts and podcasts by your favorite kinksters, or attending a a live class at Self Serve or another space that focuses on education. The possibilities are endless and you can spend a whole lifetime exploring these parts of yourself and others. We have lots of fun and exciting resources for those of you who want to learn more below.