An essential and playful introduction to the world of sadomasochism, blending insight, humor, and real-life advice. Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns is one of the most beloved kink education books for a reason. Written with warmth and wit, this approachable guide offers curious readers and adventurous partners a thorough and affirming foundation in sadomasochistic play. Whether you're completely new to kink or ready to deepen your experience, this book helps you understand the emotional, physical, and erotic dimensions of power exchange. From defining terms and navigating consent to building trust and negotiating limits, the authors share real tools to create meaningful, safe, and sexy scenes. With a mix of practical guidance, cultural context, and steamy ideas, Screw the Roses helps transform curiosity into confident, consensual exploration.

You might like this book if:

• You’re curious about BDSM and want a friendly, readable guide

• You enjoy learning through humor and real-world examples

• You want to explore power dynamics, sensation play, or dominance and submission

• You value safety, communication, and trust as foundations for sexual adventure

You might not like this book if:

• You’re looking for a book that centers kink outside of a heterosexual context (though much is still relevant across identities)

• You prefer a highly clinical or academic approach to BDSM

• You want a resource focused on non-sensual, non-sexual power exchange

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