Designer Relationships is an affirming, practical guide to building relationship structures that reflect your actual values, desires, and needs, not just the ones society hands you. Written by best-selling authors and longtime relationship educators Patricia Johnson and Mark A. Michaels, this book invites you to explore alternatives to one-size-fits-all partnerships with intention, care, and mutual respect. Whether you're curious about emotional-but-not-sexual bonds, open or polyamorous configurations, kink-aware partnerships, or evolving commitments over time, this book offers frameworks to help you design relationships that grow with you. With decades of experience in non-monogamy and a strong emphasis on conscious communication, Designer Relationships empowers you to co-create a love life that works for who you are now, and who you're becoming.

You might like this book if:

• You want language and support for building ethical, flexible relationships

• You are exploring polyamory, open relationships, or kink-inclusive dynamics

• You and your partner(s) want to design your connection intentionally

• You value frameworks that center consent, mutuality, and autonomy

You might not like this book if:

• You’re looking for advice that centers traditional monogamy

• You want a book with a lot of personal storytelling instead of structured guidance

• You prefer a highly prescriptive approach to relationships instead of open-ended exploration

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