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Love the dildo but frustrated with the fit? The Harness Base Stabilizer is your strap-on BFF, giving those beautiful but floppy, top-heavy, or narrow-based dildos a second life in your harness setup. This firm foam ring adds stability and structure so your toy stays secure and hands-free fun can actually be fun. It’s simple: just wet the inside of the stabilizer ring, slide it over your dildo’s base, pop it into your harness, and you’re ready to go. Whether you’re using a silicone dildo that collapses under pressure or a weighty toy that won’t sit right, this stabilizer helps you get the control and confidence you deserve during strap-on play.
You might like this if:
You have a dildo with a floppy or too-small base that slips in harnesses
You want more stability for hands-free strap-on fun
You’d rather buy a solution than DIY your own stabilizer
You want to expand your harness-compatible toy collection
You might not like this if:
You don’t want to lose about ¼” of dildo length due to the ring’s thickness
Your harness has narrow O-rings that won’t fit the added stabilizer
You only use toys already made for harness compatibility
Pro tip: Use water-based lube inside the ring for easy sliding, and get ready to rediscover old favorites in a whole new way!
Material: Foam
Dimensions:
Large:
• 4” x 3.5” (10cm x 8.9cm)
• Hole: 1.25” x 1.5” (3.2cm x 3.8cm)
Small:
• 3.75” x 3” (9.5cm x 7.6cm)
• Hole .75” (1.9cm)
These stabilizers are water resistant, but are still porous. You can wash them with warm, soapy water, but they’ll still hold onto some of that with which they come into contact.
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Love the dildo but frustrated with the fit? The Harness Base Stabilizer is your strap-on BFF, giving those beautiful but floppy, top-heavy, or narrow-based dildos a second life in your harness setup. This firm foam ring adds stability and structure so your toy stays secure and hands-free fun can actually be fun. It’s simple: just wet the inside of the stabilizer ring, slide it over your dildo’s base, pop it into your harness, and you’re ready to go. Whether you’re using a silicone dildo that collapses under pressure or a weighty toy that won’t sit right, this stabilizer helps you get the control and confidence you deserve during strap-on play.
You might like this if:
You have a dildo with a floppy or too-small base that slips in harnesses
You want more stability for hands-free strap-on fun
You’d rather buy a solution than DIY your own stabilizer
You want to expand your harness-compatible toy collection
You might not like this if:
You don’t want to lose about ¼” of dildo length due to the ring’s thickness
Your harness has narrow O-rings that won’t fit the added stabilizer
You only use toys already made for harness compatibility
Pro tip: Use water-based lube inside the ring for easy sliding, and get ready to rediscover old favorites in a whole new way!
Material: Foam
Dimensions:
Large:
• 4” x 3.5” (10cm x 8.9cm)
• Hole: 1.25” x 1.5” (3.2cm x 3.8cm)
Small:
• 3.75” x 3” (9.5cm x 7.6cm)
• Hole .75” (1.9cm)
These stabilizers are water resistant, but are still porous. You can wash them with warm, soapy water, but they’ll still hold onto some of that with which they come into contact.
Body safe
pleasure tested
non toxic
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