A groundbreaking resource that bridges attachment theory and the realities of consensual nonmonogamy. If you've ever struggled with jealousy, insecurity, or disconnection in multiple relationships, you're not alone. While traditional attachment theory has mostly focused on monogamous models, Polysecure by psychotherapist Jessica Fern offers a compassionate and evidence-based framework for navigating attachment styles in polyamorous or open relationships. This book blends deep psychological insight with practical tools. Fern introduces a “nested model” that links attachment, trauma, and relationship dynamics, showing how early emotional experiences can shape the way we connect with partners today. She also provides six actionable strategies to support more secure, stable, and resilient relationships, whether you’re solo-poly, in a triad, or part of a larger constellation.

You might want to read this book if:

• You're exploring or living in nonmonogamous relationships and want to understand how attachment styles show up in your connections

• You’ve experienced trauma or anxiety in relationships and want tools for healing and growth

• You're a therapist, educator, or community leader supporting polyamorous people

• You want language and strategies that affirm your identity and help you build meaningful, secure relationships

You might not enjoy this book if:

• You're looking for a quick fix rather than an in-depth exploration

• You want a how-to on polyamory logistics rather than a focus on emotional depth and attachment

• Academic or therapeutic language feels overwhelming to you

Polysecure is a powerful invitation to build connection from the inside out, no matter how many people you love.

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