Let's face it, if you're asking the question in the title, you probably already know the answer. But maybe not if you and your partner always argue, or (maybe more tellingly) if you *never* argue, or if you're always unsatisfied with how things get resolved, or if you're nervous, afraid, or fed up but it's easy to put those feelings aside when the good times are rolling, this book can help you get your feet on the ground and give you a safe space to figure out if you need some quality time and therapy or to disappear and change your name... or something in between. Co-written by Lundy Bancroft, who wrote the classic and essential manual on abusive relationship's Why Does He Do That?