SM 101 by Jay Wiseman is one of the most trusted and comprehensive beginner guides to BDSM available. Widely respected in the kink community, this book offers a realistic, non-judgmental introduction to consensual SM for people of all genders, orientations, and experience levels. Whether you're just starting to explore power play or want to deepen your knowledge of technique and safety, this book gives you a solid foundation. It covers everything from negotiating scenes and choosing safe words to rope bondage, impact play, sensation techniques, and emotional aftercare. You'll also find guidance on more advanced or less-discussed practices like knife play, erotic humiliation, and organizing community events. What we love most at Self Serve is how thoughtfully the book blends practical instruction with ethical care, emphasizing consent and communication throughout.
Sections of the book cover:
- how to run SM events and organizations, general safety considerations, SM during pregnancy, SM and safer sex, and dealing with common SM-related emergencies.
- a special "starter" chapter titled "A Novice Woman's Quick Reference Guide to Erotically Dominating a Submissive Man" that lays out a step-by-step blueprint for a basic SM session.
- a chapter on how to construct an SM "starter set" and a chapter devoted to related practices such as enema play, fetishism, fisting, polyamory, and tantra.
- concludes with a chapter on finding help with problems, a substantial bibliography and reference section, and a fairly large glossary
Why you might like this book:
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Inclusive of all genders and sexual orientations
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Focuses heavily on consent, negotiation, and safety
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Offers both beginner-friendly and advanced techniques
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Includes real-world advice for scene setup, aftercare, and emergencies
-
Great reference for individuals, couples, or community leaders
Why you might not like this book:
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Some sections may feel overwhelming if you're just curious and not ready to dive in
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Written from a somewhat clinical or instructional tone rather than personal storytelling
-
Contains graphic descriptions of kink that may not appeal to all readers
Whether you’re new to BDSM or looking to refresh your knowledge with a trusted resource, SM 101 is a thoughtful, experience-informed guide to navigating kink with care and confidence.
SM 101 by Jay Wiseman Beginner’s Guide to Safe, Consensual Kink and BDSM
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SM 101 by Jay Wiseman is one of the most trusted and comprehensive beginner guides to BDSM available. Widely respected in the kink community, this book offers a realistic, non-judgmental introduction to consensual SM for people of all genders, orientations, and experience levels. Whether you're just starting to explore power play or want to deepen your knowledge of technique and safety, this book gives you a solid foundation. It covers everything from negotiating scenes and choosing safe words to rope bondage, impact play, sensation techniques, and emotional aftercare. You'll also find guidance on more advanced or less-discussed practices like knife play, erotic humiliation, and organizing community events. What we love most at Self Serve is how thoughtfully the book blends practical instruction with ethical care, emphasizing consent and communication throughout.
Sections of the book cover:
- how to run SM events and organizations, general safety considerations, SM during pregnancy, SM and safer sex, and dealing with common SM-related emergencies.
- a special "starter" chapter titled "A Novice Woman's Quick Reference Guide to Erotically Dominating a Submissive Man" that lays out a step-by-step blueprint for a basic SM session.
- a chapter on how to construct an SM "starter set" and a chapter devoted to related practices such as enema play, fetishism, fisting, polyamory, and tantra.
- concludes with a chapter on finding help with problems, a substantial bibliography and reference section, and a fairly large glossary
Why you might like this book:
-
Inclusive of all genders and sexual orientations
-
Focuses heavily on consent, negotiation, and safety
-
Offers both beginner-friendly and advanced techniques
-
Includes real-world advice for scene setup, aftercare, and emergencies
-
Great reference for individuals, couples, or community leaders
Why you might not like this book:
-
Some sections may feel overwhelming if you're just curious and not ready to dive in
-
Written from a somewhat clinical or instructional tone rather than personal storytelling
-
Contains graphic descriptions of kink that may not appeal to all readers
Whether you’re new to BDSM or looking to refresh your knowledge with a trusted resource, SM 101 is a thoughtful, experience-informed guide to navigating kink with care and confidence.
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