Ask Self Serve – Sex after Abuse
Question: How do I start to get my sexuality back after years of abuse and humiliation? I want a healthy sex life but I don’t know what that is. — Answer: Thank you for reaching out to us about your question. One in four New Mexican women are survivors of sexual assault. The numbers of […]
Matie & Molly on 10 Drink Minimum
Matie and I had lots of fun visiting 10 Drink Minimum studios! We talked about sex, toys, communication, safer sex, and all sorts of stuff. Check it out!
Shanna Katz Teaches at Self Serve in June
Mark your calendars, folks, because Shanna Katz will be hanging out at Self Serve in June to teach two classes, Sexually Able: Intersections Between Sex and Dis/Ability and Fulfilling Fantasies – Role Play and Beyond. Shanna is a beloved friend of Self Serve and has an impressive background as a sex educator, author, presenter and all […]
Ask Self Serve – Masturbation in a Relationship
Question: Is it ok that I want to masturbate even though I’m in a relationship? I’m worried my partner gets jealous. We wish we had sex more often, and sometimes it feels like cheating. — Answer: Masturbating is natural, healthy and normal. It can help you be a stellar sexual partner because you learn what […]
Nuggets of Knowledge from Reid Mihalko
Back in April Self Serve hosted sex geek Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com to teach two classes. Self Serve Store Manager Hunter sat down with Reid for a few minutes to pick his brain on sex toys and the importance of breathing (hint: it’s really important).
Ask Self Serve – Male Prostate Pleasure
Question: Why do heterosexual men like prostate stimulation? Isn’t it painful and messy? — Answer: We’re excited to answer this question – it’s one we get a lot. Lots of couples experiment with anal play because it can feel delightful for both partners and add excitement. Most men have the bonus of a prostate, often […]
From the 505 to the 405: Bring donations for our friends in OK!
On May 20th, the town of Moore, Oklahoma, was hit by an EF5 tornado, the strongest, most destructive rating for a storm of its kind. The town has been close to completely leveled, and thousands of people and animals have lost everything. Some ‘Burquenos who love Oklahoma a whole lot are collecting donations from now […]
Masturbation Month – reasons to celebrate!
May is masturbation month, and naturally it’s a topic that is near and dear to our hearts. Masturbation is something we could probably all benefit from, but many people don’t do it because they think it’s wrong or shameful, especially female masturbation. Even today people can lose their jobs over publicly endorsing the benefits of […]
Ask Self Serve – When penetration is painful
Question: I’ve had a lot of trouble with painful penetration so I just gave up on it. I’ve asked every gynecologist I’ve been to if something’s wrong and my last one finally found that my hymen was still partially intact. I’ve had sex with one man and they don’t have to use the ‘virgin’ speculum. […]
Author of “The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure” teaches at Self Serve
Prostate stimulation is one of the most common topics we hear about at Self Serve. In response to the rising interest in prostate stimulation and male anal play, co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure Aislinn Emirzian is touring the U.S. and stopping in at Self Serve to teach a three-part workshop series. She’s […]
Ask Self Serve – Having a threesome
Question: My girlfriend and I want to have a threesome, but don’t know where to start. — Answer: Threesomes are a very common fantasy and can help couples feel connected to each other while enjoying the thrill of a new sex partner. Threesomes can also end with someone crying in a corner because sex and […]
Designer Vaginas: Worth 5 minutes of your day!
The women of Vox Feminista have really summed up the Labiaplasty phenomenon perfectly. This 5 minute video is a hilarious take on a troubling trend. We at Self Serve made a video about Labiaplasty a couple years ago. The version showing a vulva image at the beginning was censored from You Tube since, ya know, […]
Deborah Sundahl teaches Female Ejaculation and the Gspot at Self Serve
Deborah Sundahl is one of the foremost sexuality educators on female ejaculation and the gspot. She’s dropping by Self Serve on Thursday, April 25th at 7:30 pm to teach her well-loved class “Female Ejaculation and the Gspot” Deborah started out as one of the creators of the feminist magazine, On Our Backs over 25 years ago. […]
Ask Self Serve – Cuckolding in New Mexico
Question: A friend of mine suggested I contact you about my interest in cuckolding. It’s not something I hear much about in NM. I’m having issues meeting someone who I’m attracted to and likes the idea of cuckolding. — Answer: Thanks for reaching out to us! We love connecting people with resources towards understanding and […]
Ask Self Serve – Getting what you want in bed
Question: How do I warm my boyfriend up to the idea of being rougher with me? I really don’t like soft lovemaking like he does. He’s open to trying light S&M, and I just don’t know where to start. — Answer: Rough sex can be really hot! For many people it’s validating to ride […]
James Deen’s Dildo of Delight
James Deen is kind of big deal in the porn world. He has been on porn sets since the early 2000s making movies and directing. So what’s the fuss with Deen? Well a few things. 1) Obviously his penis is kind of BIG deal- he’s a porn star! 2) He breaks the stereotype of how […]
Ask Self Serve – The 50 Shades Effect
Question: What has become your best-seller since the 50 Shades craze? – Answer: The 50 shades effect has been huge. The book has inspired millions to play with sex and power in ways that were previously off limits. At Self Serve we see new customers daily looking to feel the feelings that Anastasia and Christian […]
Self Serve is Voted Best Sexy Shop for a 6th Year!
Thank you, Albuquerque! We are so proud to have been voted Best Sexy Shop for 6 years! From this week’s 20th anniversary Best of Burque issue, the Alibi writes… Hot-and-bothered consumers of all sexes, genders and orientations hit up Self Serve Sexuality Resource Center for their sensual shopping needs. Self Serve’s friendly and knowledgeable staff […]