Self Serve(d) Blog Archives - Page 7 of 25

Homelessness Resources

Emergency Homeless Shelters Service description: Short-term, immediate assistance for the homeless *Below is a list of homeless services funded all or in part by the City of Albuquerque. For information on other services, please dial 2-1-1 (United Way Information) or visit http://www.211.org/. Albuquerque Rescue Mission | Address: 525 2nd St SW | Phone: 346-4673, Fax: 843-8823 | Website: www.abqrescue.org | Capacity: 204 Beds […]

The Beginner’s Guide to Cock Rings

Cock rings are a fun way to add intensity to an erection! They temporarily trap blood in the penis, which can result in a larger, firmer and more sensitive erection that can last longer. Always remember everyone’s body is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. Rings come in many […]

Abortion Resources

Abortion Resources University of New Mexico Center for Reproductive Health | 505.925.4455 | unmcrh.org | 1701 Moon St. NE Suite 200 Albuquerque, NM 87112 | Services: Abortion up to 22 weeks both medical and surgical options Planned Parenthood New Mexico – Medical Center | 505.265.9511 plannedparenthood.org/new-mexico | 701 San Mateo NE Albuquerque, NM 87108 | Services: Abortion services, birth control, morning after pill, pregnancy testing and services Respect […]

LGBTQI Resources

Respect ABQ Women!

If you live in New Mexico you’ve probably heard about the 20-week abortion ban ballot measure that will likely be on an Albuquerque ballot this fall. Respect ABQ Women is a group of local organizations that are standing up to help defeat the ballot measure. The effort to put the 20-week abortion ban on a ballot […]

Ask Self Serve – Orgasm During Anal Penetration

Question: Can a female reach orgasm during anal sex? — Answer: Everybody is different and experiences pleasure uniquely. What helps one person experience orgasm won’t necessarily work for another. Many women LOVE anal play and the feeling of being “full.” Some women like anal penetration as an accompaniment to vaginal penetration or oral sex. Some […]

Ask Self Serve – Female Orgasm

Question: My girlfriend doesn’t have orgasms during sex and I want to help her have them. What can I do? — Answer: Thank you for reaching out to us! It’s incredibly common that people, women especially, don’t experience orgasm during intercourse. I assume when you say ‘sex’ you mean penis-in-vagina (PV) sex, which is just […]

Swellcon video: Fighting for Free Speech

Self Serve’s Fight for Pornotopia Film Festival by Molly Adler and Matie Fricker Molly & Matie were honored to be part of Swellcon, an online conference about sex & the media. In 2007, the owners of Self Serve, a feminist sex shop in Albuquerque, New Mexico decided to start a sex positive porn festival named Pornotopia. […]

Swellcon: Critical Conversations on Sex and Media

Self Serve is honored to participate in Swellcon, a virtual conference on sex and media. Swellcon is part of Smitten Kitten’s 10 year birthday celebration. It hopes to give people all over the world access to media about positive sexuality. Video titles include “The Sex Positive Revolution Will Be Televised (on Youtube!)” by Reid Mihalko, “Senior […]

Ask Self Serve – Female Ejaculation

Question: Okay, so I’m a squirter and lots of time I get too wet and am unable to keep my partner inside. How can I help dry it out so the moment isn’t interrupted? — Answer: First off, we want to congratulate you on your ability to squirt. It’s something a lot of people are […]

Coming out as trans to a new partner

This week we’re teaching a workshop on Sex Tips for Trans Folks & their Partners. A topic that always gets interesting and challenging is whether or not to tell a new date that you’re transgender. If you want to disclose that you’re trans to a new partner, when is the best time? After a little […]

Ask Self Serve – Sex and Relaxation

Question: Every time I have sex, I feel distracted and I can’t really enjoy myself. How do I get past that? — Answer: We spend much of our days in our heads figuring things out. We’re frequently analyzing, labeling, reacting, problem solving etc., so it can be hard to get OUT of your head and […]

Ask Self Serve – Gender Identity

Question: I’m not sure about my gender. Where do I get more info? — Answer: Thanks for reaching out to us. It can be daunting to find accurate and positive information about gender variance. Unfortunately, our culture still lacks common knowledge around the differences between gender identity, gender expression, sex assigned at birth and sexual […]

Sinclair Sexsmith Teaches Erotic Writing Workshop at Self Serve

Self Serve is pleased to announce a visit from Sinclair Sexsmith on July 22nd! Last year our workshop with Sinclair filled up quickly, so sign up soon! $20 a person or $35 a pair Self Serve and Sinclair will host the workshop, Writing Dirty: Skills for writing about sex, which will help you explore the […]

Ask Self Serve – I might be bi curious

Question: I am bi curious and looking for information and sex tips. — Answer: Congrats on getting to know your sexual orientation and looking for info on how to give and receive more pleasure in your relationships! June is Pride month, so there will be lots of events where you can interact with your LGBTQ […]

VIDEO: Welcome to Self Serve

Self Serve is different than other adult stores, and we’re really proud of that. We work hard to make sure you feel comfortable and supported. The store is a space we’ve created to learn about and explore sexuality and relationships. This video is an introductory tour to show you what Self Serve is all about, from the comfort and privacy of home.

For many people, it’s an act of courage to just walk into a sex shop. We hope this video will help illustrate that Self Serve is a place where you can walk in, shop and ask questions without feeling shame or fear. Feel free share this video with your friends and social network to show how Self Serve is different.

Ask Self Serve – Traveling with Sex Toys

Question: I am traveling to see my partner for her graduation. I’m not checking luggage. She asked for me to bring her sex toy. Is there anyway to carry it on discreetly? Are you even allowed to carry that on? — Answer: Thanks for the question! Lots of people will leave their favorite travel buddy […]

Happy Pride Month!

It’s That Time of the Year! Pride Month and Buy One, Get One Half Off All Sex Toys at our store. June is a lovely month, one of our favorites for many reasons. First off, it’s Pride month! Pride is a time to celebrate our sexual and gender diversity in a positive, affirming way […]