Sex Geek Reid Mihalko at Self Serve
World-renowned sex educator Reid Mihalko will teach two classes at Self Serve in April – and we’re real excited! Reid teaches adults about relationships, sex, sexuality and self esteem in workshops, college tours and online videos. He will be at Self Serve on April 17th to teach Negotiating Successful Threesomes at 7:30 pm and Energetic […]
Reid Mihalko comes to Self Serve
World-renowned sex educator Reid Mihalko will teach two classes at Self Serve in April – and we’re real excited! Reid teaches adults about relationships, sex, sexuality and self esteem in workshops, college tours and online videos. He will be at Self Serve on April 17th to teach Negotiating Successful Threesomesat 7:30 pm and Energetic Sex for Pragmatists on […]
Ask Self Serve – Libido and Sex Drive
Question: My girlfriend never wants to have sex…I feel annoying. What do I do?! – Answer: It can be frustrating to always be the person who initiates sex, so it’s a good idea to talk about this in a sensitive, understanding way so she doesn’t feel inadequate and you feel heard. Talking about issues […]
Ask Self Serve – Toys for 50 Shades fans
Question: What product does Self Serve Toys recommend to 50 Shades fans looking for a first time product? For the experienced fans? – Answer: 50 Shades of Grey has made its mark on readers and has opened up a whole new world of sexual exploration. There’s lots of debate around the way the book portrays […]
Ted Bunch to Present at UNM about ending violence against women
Ted Bunch is an internationally known speaker and activist who works to end violence against women and girls through educating men and boys. He will present at UNM on Tuesday March 19th through an event sponsored by several groups including the African American Student Services, New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Rape Crisis Center of […]
Ask Self Serve – Penis pumps
Question: Hello ladies, I was in your shop a few nights ago, I was a little shy to ask you, I didn’t want to embarrass myself, if you know what I mean. What I wanted to ask you was what different penis pumps you have and which are the safest that you know of? — […]
Self Serve is hiring!
Self Serve is hiring a part time/on-call Sales Associate/Sex Educator! Join our small, hardworking team of sex educators. You have the opportunity to help people feel better every day, and create a sex positive space unlike anywhere else in New Mexico. Must be 18+, open minded, excited about sexuality education and enjoy retail customer service. […]
Ask Self Serve – Couples toys for penises
Question: I’m unable to have sex with my husband currently. I had emergency surgery in November and have 2 tubes coming out of my stomach and intestine that are stitched to my skin and cause discomfort. I’m going to have them both until mid summer when I have surgery… My husband has been wonderful, and […]
Women of ABQ Speak Out at TEDx event
This is the third time I’m sharing TED Talks. Two previous posts were wisdom from Jane Fonda and Esther Perel. Now you can see TEDx Talks from women of New Mexico. It’s a great concept because you can hear wonderful ideas from people in our community. Watch and be inspired by women talking about diversity, […]
Ask Self Serve – Adding Flavor to Oral Sex
This is the first edition of a regular feature where you can ask Self Serve staff any question via email, Facebook or writing it on a slip at the store. It’s a way for us to provide information on a variety of subjects that people may not want to ask a doctor or a friend. […]
Pledge a Picket at Self Serve
You know that feeling of rage you get when you see and hear people talk about abortion using shame and fear tactics to persuade people against having one? What about that feeling of helplessness when you want to do something to contribute, but you don’t know what it is? Self Serve knows that feeling well […]
Keeping it Hot in a Long Term Relationship
I’m planning for a class next week on Keeping it Hot in Long Term Relationships, and I am reminded of the oh-so-common challenges this brings by writer and sex therapist Esther Perel. She recently did a Ted Talk in NYC about this challenge of “reconciling the domestic and the erotic.” She poignantly states that perhaps […]
My Glowing Review of the Fun Factory Stronic
Here’s the thing. I own a sex shop. Very little in the sex toy world seems new anymore. Until now. Rechargeable sex toys? Check. Stronger vibrators? Check. Pthalate-free and non-toxic toys? Check. Dual motors and USB and waterproof and ergonomically designed? Check… Yes, all of these improvements in the vibrator world are amazing […]
The Alibi’s 505 Sex Survey
Self Serve’ own Hunter Riley interprets the facts of our fine city’s sexiness. The Weekly Alibi conducted the first ever city-wide sex survey, and it’s pretty cool to get a sneak peek inside… their heads. What do you think is the sexiest body part? The biggest turn off? See what Burquenos said… My favorite statistic […]
Self Serve’s Ultimate Valentines Guide
Valetines day can be much more than chocolates and roses. Whether you are with yourself for Valentines or you are with one special love (or more!), Self Serve wants to offer you some fun, sexy activities and ideas to checkout throughout the month of February. We’ve got something for everyone, so scroll down to see […]
BDSM & Kinksters on the Oprah Network
Go Lisa Ling! On her premier “Our America” documentary show on OWN, Lisa Ling interviews people around the country about BDSM. What a refreshing and realistic take on the hobbies and lifestyle of real, normal, healthy people we know and love. So little mainstream media have covered the communities of BDSM players, and I was […]
Enthusiastic Consent
“True consent is enthusiastic consent—a deliberate and thoughtful process—not something that can be interpreted.” May all the sex you have not just be a, “well, ok. I guess.” but a “hell, yes!” One of the most exciting topics I discuss at safer sex workshops is this concept of enthusiastic consent. Think about all the bad […]
Masturbation tips for women
It may seem silly, but many women really don’t know the best way to masturbate. When women are told that area ‘down there’ is private, or told never to touch themselves, and since the clitoris is often tucked away, it may be easier to just not go there. While experimentation is a great way to […]